Mother's Day

The week leading up to mother’s day has been filled with all sorts of emotions, confusion and conundrum. My dear mother is in a nursing home and she hasn’t spoken since November, every year that if I was not able to spend Mother’s Day with my mother I always sent a card and flowers. Before my parents moved to the nursing home they lived in a senior building and they loved receiving packages from me for two reasons; one they were from me and the other a little bit of showing off. For every occasion I was not present I sent flowers, candy, fruit and all sorts of things; the Fedx, UPS or FTD truck was always showing up with deliveries for them.

Earlier this week I went into a card shop to buy a sympathy card and was almost paralyzed, you see I lost my father March 1st; I quickly regained my composure and chose a card. Then I noticed that I was surrounded by mother’s day cards so I paused for awhile trying to decide if I should send my mother a card. I knew she couldn’t read it but she is still here on this earth and I could not imagine not sending something to acknowledge mother’s day. I called my sister and she told me that she would read the card to mother, so I sent the card. The next thing I struggled with was sending flowers, I decided against sending flowers for possible health related reasons.

This is all a little difficult for me because I have lived my entire life with the best mother ever! I never had to look beyond my mother for a role model. My mother is kind, loving and giving; she taught me right from wrong, how to give of myself without expecting anything in return, how to accept people for what they are and how to forgive. My mother never expressed disparaging words about anyone and she always saw the good in everyone (I have a little trouble with this one but I am working on it).

Although this mother’s day is a mark difference from mother’s days past I am so very thankful to still have my mother, and for the first time in many years I will be spending mother’s day with my son! So this mother’s day like all of the others will start with me calling my sister and a few close friends to wish them a Happy Mother’s Day. Later in the day when my sister is visiting our mother I will call her again so she can put the phone to my mother’s ear so that I can wish my mother a Happy Mother’s Day and tell her how much I love her - - then I will be ready to enjoy the day with my darling husband and wonderful son!

So to all you awesome mother’s, sons and daughters I wish you a Happy Mother’s Day!

P.S. I will be return to my ‘hungrybroad’ self talking about food next blog, I promise…